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My passion is to help you maximise your personal and professional success and prosperity so that you can thrive and flourish in all areas of your life. I want to help you to use your emotions better, to gain a better understanding of who you are, develop your effective communication skills, and strengthen your abilities. I believe your native self (your true inner being) has the capacity and willingness to function as the driving force to achieving your hopes, dreams and aspirations, but certain blockages throughout life has quashed the liberation of your native self and it’s my mission to free you, to help you grow and become the best that you can be.
I believe The Art of Anger lies in discovering the level at which your anger is operative and then using that as an emotional power to express yourself in a healthy and skilful way that will enable you to flourish and thrive in all areas of your life. For some, mastering this art has become problematic because of specific blockages within them, such as emotional trauma, broken relationships and lack of self-worth. If you are ready and willing, than I can help you grow your signature strengths, enhance your passion and develop the makings of a life worth living.
Why do I coach? Because I believe everyone is important - regardless of their gender, age, race, or social status and this importance includes you. I am full of love and see potential in everyone; even those who seem to struggle in life. I believe we can all contribute positively to mankind in some way, and we all have the right to live in peace and prosperity. However, it saddens me to think there are people in the world who may never thrive or prosper due to the country in which they live, or because of they were born into a dysfunctional family. Nevertheless, I choose to coach people in the hope that they would become peace-makers, or positive influencers or creative innovators, better versions of themselves who could potentially change their world to be an even better place to live in.
I coach because I’m a pioneer, a visionary and a forward thinker: coaching explores goals and ambitions, as well as developing skills and abilities, and boosting performance. Coaching is about moving forward and dealing with issues and challenges before they become major problems.
How did I get into coaching? I have had a truly purposeful life that I believe has equipped me in becoming a successful integrative coach/therapist. Let’s just say I had a difficult childhood and I lived my teenage years in a domestic violent household with a narcissistic parent. I wasn't allowed to cry or have emotions and so I learnt from a young age to stuff my feelings, especially anger as there was too much anger in the house anyway. Because of suppressing my emotions, I had fundamentally become emotionally numb and this eventually developed into depression: I had felt desperately alone, disconnected from the world and worthless as a human being. I did not want others to feel this way too and therefore I had decided I wanted to work within mental health. Fortunately, during my childhood and teen years, I had learnt to build up resilience, and so, digging into those reserves allowed me to train as a counsellor and study Psychology at university.
Soon after becoming a counsellor, I extended my training to specialise in anger management and worked mainly with people with anger issues. To keep up to date within the mental health profession, to improve my practice and to increase my knowledge and skillset, I actively continual my professional development, this includes; Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), Humanistic Counselling, Stress Management and Life Coaching. I’ve combined all this training with my own personal experience and developed an evidence-based psychoeducational anger management programme which alleviates and ameliorates anger and promotes personal development.
I am comforted in knowing that what I had been through growing up was not in vain but part of my journey and purpose in helping others.
My main values, beliefs and philosophies.
I tend to speak the truth. Some people can’t handle the truth, even though the truth could set them free. For me, I need honest people in my life so that I know where I stand with them, so I can grow and develop. Even when they say hurtful things to me, I value their honesty and feel closer to them. However, I find fake people uncomfortable to be around and it triggers my insecurities because I start to question their authenticity and our relationship.
We are all unique, therefore, we all have differences: different opinions, values, beliefs and philosophies. Some are similar, some may overlap, some are identical, but not one person will have the exact same opinions, values, beliefs or philosophies as another. Your native self will be different to someone else’s native self – meaning, what you want to do, how you behave and who you are may offend or influence another. Keep you integrity and refine your native self, rather than change it to suit others.
I am very spiritual, and a practicing born again Christian with an authentic relationship with Jesus. I am a work in progress and don’t always follow His teachings or get them right, but I know I am loved, and I believe in the power of the Holy Spirit. This may put some people off from working with me, and I appreciate and respect that. I think it’s right and important to disclaim this, as this is a great part of who I am, and my honesty and transparency urges me to share this. I would also like to exclaim that my faith will not be part of or involve working with others (unless specifically requested by you).
“How do you spell love?” Piglet. “You don’t spell it, you feel it?” Pooh. It’s hard to truly hate someone, when you truly love them. Don’t confuse hurt, sadness or anger with hate. You can feel all these emotions and still love. When you truly have love within, you stop seeing the negative actions of another and start seeing the person within. This starts with loving and nurturing your native self. "It’s not selfish to want to love and nurture yourself, it’s a basic instinct and a need for survival."
I have over 18 years’ experience in a successful progressive career within mental health and personal development
I was once the youngest trained as an anger management specialist in the UK
I am an award-winning life coach and entrepreneur
I have successfully implemented innovative ways of facilitating conflict resolution training to multi-agencies
I am a perpetual student and love learning, I am very curious and open to new ideas which I then apply in practice
I am a strong believer of the power of integrating holistic wellbeing within the workplace
Education and training
PhD Psychological Perspectives (Currently studying)
MSc Applied Positive Psychology and Coaching Psychology
B.A. (Hons) Education and Community Studies
Dip.H.E. Play work and Youth Studies
B.A.A.M Anger Management Therapist
Level 2 Counselling
BSY Stress Management
Centre of Excellence Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP)
Level 3 Life Coaching
Something a little more personal
I have been married to John for 24 years and we have four children together; Morgan 22, Mason 20, Turaya 11 and Vitoria 9. I'm also a qualified hairdresser, a professional artist and I facilitate a craft group for ladies within my community. I also run my own jewellery making business called Momatuvi, do have a little look in my shop.